How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage (Prov.5:3-23)


Proverbs 5:3-23


ILL:  Old minister: "Some of the happiest times of my life were spent in the arms of a woman who was not my wife.  (pause)  She was my mother."

        Young minister:  "Some of the happiest times of my life were spent in the arms of a woman who was not my wife.  (forgets)  But I can't remember who she was."


A.  Unfortunately Many are Spending time in the Arms of

Someone who they are not Married to.


·        Polls show that although 90% of married people disapprove of extramarital relationships, statistics from a national survey indicate that 15% of wives and 25% of husbands have experienced marital infidelity.

·        According to The Monogamy Myth by Peggy Vaughan, 60% of husbands and 40% of wives will have an affair at some time in their marriage.

·        Marriage researcher Zelda Westmeads states that although much adultery is never discovered, "all the evidence points to affairs being on the increase."


B.  The Bible Always Condemns Adultery.


·        The term adultery is mentioned 15 times in the O.T. and 18 times in the N.T.  Every instance is an admonition against the act.

·        It is one of the Ten Commandments.

·        It was one of the few Jewish laws that was punishable by death.

·        It was the only reason given by the Lord as a legitimate grounds for divorce.

·        It is stated that a person who commits this act is not a true believer and follower of Christ.  (I Cor.6:9-10)



C.  The Reason Adultery is so Evil is its Affect upon the Family.


            EX:  I have personally seen how adultery destroys

marriages, families, homes, lives.


This is not what God intended.


D.  The Truth is God Wants You to Have a Marvelous,

Meaningful, Monogamous Marriage.


How can we guarantee that?

How can I affair-proof my marriage?


I.  Be Cautious.  (Prov.5:3-8)


A.  The Wanton Woman's Smiles are Seductive.  (3)

            EX:  My experience in New Orleans

            It could be her dress is seductive, talk is seductive,

moves are seductive.

This is talking about a temple prostitute.

It could just as easily be a Desperate Housewife.


B.  The Wanton Woman's Smiles are Subtle.  (6)


C.  You must Stay Away from the Snare

if you Don't Want to get Caught.  (8)


            It is interesting to note how God advises us to address lust.

            1.  Most sins He says, "Resist."

"Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."  (Jms.4)

            2.  In the area of lust He says, "Run"

                        "Flee fornication."  (I Cor.6:18)

                        "Flee youthful lusts"  (II Tim.2:22)

            3.  Some sins are so dangerous that we are to have nothing

     to do with them.  Lust is like that.

o       We are to run with our legs.

o       We are to run with our minds.  (Matt.5:28)

4.  Note the difference in Joseph and David.

II.  Be Concerned.  (Proverbs 5:9-14)


ILL:  At one time an adulterer was branded with a Scarlet "A".

That is no longer done.  But there is still much personal cost.


A.  The Consequence of Dishonor.  (9)

            A reputation may be ruined.

            EX:  Preachers:  Jim Bakker, Jimmy Swaggart

                    Politicians:  Wilber Mills, Gary Hart, Gary Condit


B.  The Consequence of Drudgery.  (9)

            EX:  The Oak Ridge Boys song:  "Trying to love two

women is like a ball and chain"


C.  The Consequence of Debt.  (10)


            1.  From white lies.

            2.  From blackmail.


D.  The Consequence of Disease.  (11)

            ILL:  The CDC says VD's have reached epidemic

proportions in the U.S.  A new infection every 45 seconds.  Results in pain, blindness, arthritis, infertility, brain damage, heart disease, death.


E.  The Consequence of Disgust.  (12-13)

            A gnawing conscience

            EX:  David  (Psalm 51:3,12)

                        "my sin is ever before me"

                        "Restore the joy of my salvation"


F.  The Consequence of Discipline.  (14)


            It was a cause for discipline in the OT.

            It is a cause for discipline in the NT.  (I Cor.5:9)

            EX:  If you commit adultery, you will receive a visit from

me.  You will either repent or remove.

You had better Count the Cost.

III.  Be Contented.  (Proverbs 5:15-20)


A.  God gave you Your Spouse.

            EX:  God brought Eve to Adam.

                        God brought Rebecca to Isaac.

                           God brought Boaz to Ruth.


B.  God expects you to be content with what He gave you.


            1.  We should be content with all things God gave us.

                        a.  The parents.

                        b.  The body.

                        c.  The talents/gifts.

                        d.  The finances/possessions.

                        e.  The family.


            2.  How can I be content with my spouse?

                        a.  Stop shopping.

                        b.  Keep dating.

                        c.  Start thanking.


IV.  Be Convicted.  (Proverbs 5:21-23)


A.  God Perceives our Sin.  (21)


            ILL:  Spy camera outside Dorothy's office.

                        God can see and hear everywhere.


B.  God Punishes our Sin.  (22-23)

"…whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap"  (Gal.6)



A.  Your sin may not be Adultery.  But God perceives & punishes.

B.  But God also forgives.

            EX:  The woman taken in adultery.  "Go, and sin no more."

                        No matter how bad your sin, Jesus can forgive.


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