"Fireproofing Your Marriage:Know Your Limits" (Gen.3:1-19)

“KNOW YOUR LIMITS”

Genesis 3:1-19

Introduction:

A.  Adam & Eve were given some limits by God—

            Do not eat of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good & Evil.

 

B.  Adam & Eve broke the limits given by God.

 

C.  Adam & Eve suffered by breaking the limits.

            1.  Physically—hard labor for her, hard labor for him

            2.  Emotionally—guilt & shame

            3.  Relationally—not the same between them

            4.  Spiritually—died, separated from God

 

D.  Today there are many  like Adam & Eve.

 

            1.  We have been given limits by God.

 

            2.  Many have broken the limits—transgression.

                        The blurring of the limits by society.

                        The temptation by Satan.

 

            3.  Many are suffering for breaking the limits.

                        EX:  Overeating, overindulging, overspending,

                                    overstepping our bounds, overreaching

 

            4.  Many relationships are suffering because they are

                        transgressing the limits.

 

            5.  Let us look at six limits there should be in every

                        good relationship.

 

I.  Know the Limits of your Touch.

 

            A.  Touch can be a good thing.

                        1.  Hugging is healthy.

                             EX:  Boy who needed 3 hugs a day.

                             Lee Shapiro—“The Hugging Judge”

                             Bumper Sticker: “Don’t bug me.  Hug me.”

                        2.  Meaningful Touch.

                             Gary Smalley & John Trent talk about it in

     “The Blessing” & “The Five Love Languages”

 

            We have over 5 million touch receptors.

            Hemoglobin levels go up by touch.

            Stress levels go down by touch.

            EX:  Joseph in bed at night with us.

                        Always want to touch to settle down.

 

            B.  Touch can be a bad thing.

                        1.  Affectionate Touch.

                        “…It is good for a man not to touch a woman.”

                                    (I Cor.7:1)

                                    Touch is sexually stimulating to a woman.

                                    Stirs up emotions within her.

                                    So you better not be touching a woman not

your wife.

EX:  Holding hands means something

different between men & women; patting on

behind means something different.

Why young people should be very careful.

 

                        2.  Abusive Touch.

                        “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according

to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto

the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the

grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 

(I Pt.3:7)

                                    Women are the weaker vessel physically.

                                    This doesn’t make her less valuable.

                                    EX:  Crystal is more valuable than plastic.

                                    Treat her with respect, never abuse.

                                    Be a gentleman.

                                    EX:  Open doors, offer seat, stand up when

she enters, carry her heavy bags,

NEVER, NEVER abuse her.

                                    EX:  We jail people for abusing animals.

            Don’t Go There.  Put a Limit on your Touch.

II.  Know the Limits of your Tongue.  (see Ephesians 4)

 

A.  There should be No False Words in Marriage.  (Eph.4:25)

 

            1.  We should always say what we mean.

·        Guys should say “I love you”

·        Gals should say what they want.

 

2.  We should always mean what we say.

·        I can’t fake it.

·        I shouldn’t fake it.

If your spouse knows you are lieing in marriage now, he will wonder if you were lieing at marriage vows.

 

B.  There should be No Fierce Words in Marriage.  (Eph.4:29-32)

            ILL:  The Andy Griffith episode where fighting couple was

taught to speak nicely and it ruined there marriage. 

This was sending the wrong message.

 

1.  Fierce words bring heated emotions.

            EX:  Like gas on a fire.

2.  Fierce words bring hurt emotions.

            EX:  “Sticks and stones may break my bones

                        but words can never hurt me.”

                        Yes they can.

                                   

            Don’t Go There!  Put a limit on your Tongue.

 

III.  Know the Limits of your Temper. (Ephesians 4:26,27)

A.  Anger may come.

            1.  Anger is natural.

            2.  Anger isn’t necessarily sinful.

                        EX:  Jesus was angry.  God gets angry.

B.  Anger should go.

            1.  Out of town by sundown. 

2.  Don’t hold onto anger.

EX:  Leaving on a heated iron can burn your house down.

IV.  Know the Limits of your Time.  (Eph.5:16,17)

 

ILL:  Is there anybody here who isn’t busy?

            I don’t see the hands of any parents, spouses.

            Life gets busy.

 

A.  You will never be able to do all the things you want to do.

            ILL:  Travel, work, time with friends, time with family

 

B.  You must prioritize to do all the things you need to do.

           

            1.  You must make time for Faith.

                        You can be at church every Sunday if you want to.

                        You can be at Sunday School, Sun night, Wed night

                        You can read your Bible through, pray if you want.

 

            2.  You must make time for Family.

                        Put your family in your schedule.

                        If you don’t time will get away.

 

V.  Know the Limits of your Treasury.  (see I Tim.6)

 

A.  You will never be able to own everything you want.

           

            We must learn constraint.  (I Tim.6:9-10)

            1.  Unrestraint will hurt your faith.

            2.  Unrestraint will hurt your family.

 

B.  You must learn to want everything you have.

 

            We must learn contentment.  (I Tim.6:6-8)

            1.  You can be miserable with much.  EX: Rockefeller

            2.  You can be happy with little.  EX:  young couples

 

Don’t Go There!  Know your limits.

 

 

 

 

VI.  Know the Limits of your Thoughts.

 

            “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” (Prov.23:7)

            Many marriage begin a downward descent with a bad

thought.

 

A.  There are thoughts that should not Enter our Minds.

            EX:  Pornography, Vulgarity, Violence, Divorce

            Make your mind a Fortress!

 

            “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the

issues of life.”  (Prov.4:23)

            “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true…honest…

just…pure…lovely…of good report; if there be any virtue,

and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

 (Phil.4:8)

 

B.  There are thoughts that should not Endure in your Mind.

            EX:  lists of hurts, jealousies, failures

            Learn to Forgive!

 

            “…forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching

forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the

mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ

Jesus.”  (Phil.2:13-14)

 

You will never get ahead if you are constantly looking back

            Don’t Go There!  Know your limits.

 

Conclusion:

Men set up fences to protect their land.

You need to set up some fences to protect your marriage.

“I will never touch another woman like I do my wife.”

“I will never lay a hand on my spouse in anger.”

“I will never lie to my spouse.”

“I will never go to bed angry with my spouse.”

“I will never forget to spend time with my family.”

“I will never put my family in a financial strain.”

“I will never let my mind dwell on harmful things.”

 

 
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